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The Bachelor/Bachelorette

Another season of The Bachelor is over, and of course the bachelor picked the one woman everyone tried to warn him about. I give them a few months…

Once upon a time, I’m a little embarrassed to say, I used to watch each season in its entirety. I stopped because I got tired of watching the same people be recycled from one season to another. It went something like this: one guy was the bachelor and had 25 women to choose from, one of the women he didn’t choose went on to be the new bachelorette with 25 men to choose from, one of the men she didn’t choose went on to be the new bachelor with 25 new women, and so on and so forth. This cycle has repeated itself about a dozen times now. Personally, I would prefer it if they chose a new person for each season that has no connection to the previous season(s).

Regardless, that’s not the main reason I stopped watching. I stopped watching because the show has lost its course. When it first began it was focused on giving people the opportunity to find a romantic match and a happily ever after. However as the years and seasons have gone by, the show has become more about stirring the drama, causing scandalous moments, and giving us the most shocking rose ceremony ever. Sure, everyone likes to watch juicy TV moments, but at some point these moments stop being tolerable, especially given the purpose of the show.

It’s difficult to take the show seriously when A) the people being selected are kind of cuckoo, B) there’s always the one contestant that comes in with a bad agenda, C) people can come and go as they like for a second chance, and D) the biggest one of them all, only one couple out of all the seasons has had a real success story. The show doesn’t really work anymore, so to speak, since people don’t stay together or engaged for much time. I think part of the problem is that all of the parties involved go into it convinced that they’re going to fall in love, so in that sense, the relationships are being forced.

Don’t get me wrong though, if they had a gay version of this show I would totally apply for it. In fact there has been at least one other dating show that was for the gay community, but that one was even more screwed up because it purposely inserted (no pun) three straight guys into the mix and made the gay bachelor think they were actually gay. But I digress. My point is, I’m jealous of the process and of the activities they get to do on The Bachelor/Bachelorette. Despite the drama, it looks like they have fun half of the time with all of the romantic dates, unique activities, traveling, exotic locations, and fantasy suites. For example, this past season I did manage to catch one episode where they got to hike up the Bay Bridge; that would be so cool to do!

Anyways, the individuals involved are not given a fair opportunity to find love anymore. The show is no longer as innocent and as honest as it used to be, and I’m surprised it’s still on the air. Producers, it’s time to go back to what this show used to be!

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The Streak Is Broken

Photo taken from Flickr user: bored-now

I was hoping to write about this at a future date with much more attractive results. Unfortunately I can’t, because a streak I had going is officially broken.

Meeting new people at any point in time, whether it’s strangers, friends of friends, or co-workers, is a normal part of life, but to meet romantic interests on the same dates from year to year is a little more rare. For the past two years (2010 and 2011), there have been three specific weekends, the same in both years, in which I have met someone new. They are: 1) the weekend after Valentine’s Day, 2) the weekend of a conference I volunteer for in March, and 3) my birthday weekend in October.

Besides the dates, another similarity from year to year has been the level of involvement with these “romantic interests.” The two guys I’ve met in February I actually ended up dating for a few months, though not exclusively. Nothing really happened with the guys I’ve met in March, besides exchanging contact information. And for the guys from October, we kept in contact for a while but never officially dated.

Going into this year, I would be lying if I said I wasn’t curious to find out whether this streak would continue. I thought it would be a little too coincidental, but nice, if I indeed did meet another three guys on these three weekends. But I also thought that if it didn’t happen, it’s not the end of the world (yet) and it’s not the only times I could meet someone new. I should say that I don’t go out of my way to make these meetings happen, they just kind of happen.

Well, for the third time, I met someone the weekend after Valentine’s Day. It was sort of a last minute date/meet; we’re still currently “talking” and whether we end up dating remains to be seen.

This past weekend I volunteered at the annual conference again, but unfortunately didn’t meet anyone new. Womp womp womp. Ironically, I actually noticed a lot more guys attending the conference this year, than the previous years, that were questionably gay. So really, my odds seemed better, but still nothing happened and that’s ok.

I’m not surprised or bummed out that the streak is broken, since it’s not the only times I can meet someone new. For me, it was just more comical and quaint, and I was interested to see how long I would have this “good luck.” Then again, I’m still single… so meeting those guys couldn’t really have been so much good luck (though I did at least remain friends with two of them). Regardless, I look forward to future meets and dates, and who knows, maybe a new streak will begin.

Playlist: 14 Songs To Get It On

Photo taken from Flickr user: bitzcelt

For this Valentine’s Day, I’ve put together a list of my favorite songs that one can get it on to. There’s a mix of songs ranging from quiet to loud, slow to fast, passionate to aggressive. My musical taste is driven more towards the Pop-Rock-Top 40 stuff, so that’s what this list is mostly made up of. Total playtime (no pun intended): 1 hour.

In alphabetical order based on the artist’s name:

  1. Lovesong by Adele
    Very slow song, addressing an eternal type of love that brings out the best of you. This isn’t officially her song, but it’s the best version of them all. One of the few romantic, passionate songs on this list.
  2. Night Of Your Life by David Guetta ft. Jennifer Hudson
    Dance type of song with non-PG lyrics, but still doesn’t feel raunchy. Wanting long lasting love and in return getting the night of your life.
  3. Mouth2Mouth by Enrique Iglesias ft. Jennifer Lopez
    Semi-slow and seductive. Two people spending the night together, while thinking of someone else.
  4. Come On Closer by Jem
    Soft subtly sexy song, with some pounding and twinkling background sounds. About satisfying your partner and enjoying their reaction it in the process.
  5. E.T. by Katy Perry
    Techno type song, with very clever lyrics. Having fallen for a not-good-for-you-extra-terrestrial-being but willing to have them take over you.
  6. Lay It On Me by Kelly Rowland ft. Big Sean
    Fun and fast tuned. All about wanting to get it on, and get off.
  7. So Hott by Kid Rock
    Rock n roll and to the point. All about a one night fling. Probably not a good Valentine’s Day option…
  8. Secret by Maroon 5
    Slow and mellow type of song. Starts off with the subject being about traveling, and eventually the lyrics become innuendos.
  9. Crazy Love by Ne-Yo ft. Fabolous
    R&B song with a borderline sleazy sound. About a dysfunctional relationship.
  10. Killer Love by Nicole Scherzinger
    Racy and speedy type of song. A type of love that kills, but you enjoy it and can’t get enough.
  11. Closer by Nine Inch Nails
    This song is wrong, twisted, and explicit, but it works.
  12. Skin by Rihanna
    Provocative, vamp-ish type of song that doesn’t feel dirty. No heels, no shirt, no skirt, no jeans… just your skin.
  13. Make U Love Me by Robin Thicke
    Your ABC song: the arrogant, bad boy, cocky type.
  14. End:User by Vixtrola
    Slow and sensual song. About someone who takes you to another level.